If you have experienced a distressing event, or perhaps, trauma from past or current relationships, you may have noticed that you can't quite "get over it." That's because "trauma" is as much a biological event(s) as it is psychological. I am a Certified Practitioner of the Trauma Resiliency Model®, which is a somatic (relating to the body) and biological model that bridges the body and mind in healing together. Science shows this type of model is more effective at treating distress when coupled with talk therapy. From the TRM and CRM website: "The Trauma Resiliency Model and Community Resiliency Model are designed to help individuals understand the biology of traumatic stress reactions and learn specific skills to return the body, mind and spirit back to balance after experiencing traumatic events. These skills can awaken the hope that has, for some, been lost after natural and human-made disasters."
The simple definition of resiliency is the ability to get back up after a distressing event. When we are stressed, we become dysregulated. That feeling of shaking, your heart racing, sweating, agitation, numbing out, shutting down…these are all responses of dysregulation. Fortunately, we can learn to self-regulate. When we know how to bring ourselves back to center and reset our nervous system, we gain confidence in our ability to handle difficult situations and intense emotions. This is called resiliency — making it through…What we pay attention to grows, so if we can practice paying attention to something ‘other’ than the distress, and noticing “what else is true”, our nervous system will follow, and thereby, our neural pathways are changing in the moment.